Sex has cooled down? Find out how to reconnect

Have you ever gone through that phase where sex seems to have gone into vacation mode and has no return date? Relax, you're not alone in this "where's the mood?" marathon.

Just imagine: before you were like fire and gasoline, and now you're like two tired zombies fighting over control of the remote control. The excitement has gone and left only a limp "what's up" in its place. The reality is that sex is not like buying bread. There is no set time, no on and off button. It's more like a crazy orchestra where each instrument needs to be at least in tune.

First important warning: Don't go into desperation mode or, worse, complaining mode. Nothing kills the mood more than pressure. A woman is not a sex machine that you put money in and it works. She is a complex human being, with feelings, expectations and an incredible ability to put an end to when she feels disrespected.

The magic starts long before the bedroom. It starts with that loving message during the day, that fancy breakfast, that moment of genuine care. Seduction isn't just lingerie, sometimes it's about offering help without having to ask.

Want a golden tip? Listen. Don't just "listen" with your head down while browsing your phone. give her your full attention. Ask her how she is, what she's feeling. Sometimes the problem isn't even you, it's her busy life consuming her neurons.

Stress kills arousal faster than lightning. Work, kids, bills to pay, family, social media - it's too much information for one person. Your mission? To be a safe haven, not just another problem to solve.

If nothing works, take a deep breath and call on the help of professionals. Gynecologists, therapists, sexologists - there are people who are literally paid to unravel these mysteries of libido.

Last truth: Sex is not a right, it's a privilege. A dance where two people need to be at least willing to dance. No pressure, no demands, with a lot of respect and affection.

And if it still doesn't work out? Patience. Sometimes the excitement takes a break, but that doesn't mean divorce. It means you need to recharge. Hang in there, renew your energy, show that you're together. Time and complicity will take care of the rest.