The ugly truth or a silly little lie?

Last time I talked about quite a controversial subject. I talked about women who actually admit they enjoy the company of sleazebags, and I received a few e-mails commenting on that. The men who aren’t described by this adjective (how good it’d be if all men weren’t!) feel offended when we approach the subject. But c’mon! Of course most women are after someone who looks after them, who protects them, and who becomes a partner for life. So boys, don’t be upset about it!

What I think is funny is that women get mad at both for speaking the truth and telling lies. Most men, on the other hand, believe ‘silly little lies’ are not capable of wrecking the relationship, and sometimes they prefer hiding the truth from their loved ones – which can become a huge mess later on. I know, I know… if you speak the truth she’ll go deeper and deeper, wanting to know every single detail.

We know it’s annoying, but even so… we prefer the ugly truth, seriously. It hurts a lot when we know we’re being lied to. I guess that’s why some guys were offended when I talked about the womanizers last time. I’m aware some relationships work because those silly little lies exist. But don’t you agree with me that in the end things might become messy, and the tiny lies turn into a huge bag full of huge lies you can’t remember about? I’m more into the relationships that last because they have the truth as a priority. But that’s just me.

Anyway, why am I talking about all this? First I would like to say I am a big fan of relationships based on the truth – as ugly as they might become sometimes. But I also must admit that I am aware that some little routine stuff are left aside just because they don’t need any explanations, dialogues or discussions that’ll turn them into the big monsters they’re not. We have to agree that no relationship is perfect, no matter if they have all truths revealed or all lies hidden.

Of course in this last paragraph I was talking about work, family, and other subjects that aren’t that influential in a couple’s life. I mean, is there anything more annoying than getting home from work, tired, and listening to your girlfriend complaint about her grandmother’s cat’s behavior? If it were with me, I wouldn’t think twice before going back to the car and driving to a hotel to sleep and watch some TV.

Routine stuff don’t get us emotionally tired, they usually physically wear us off. Emotional tiredness, I guess, is more about the accumulation of silly little lies or the ugly truth. I hope you forgive me, but the ugly truth walks side by side with big lies. So watch out!