Should I stare or should I go?

There are people who are beautiful, and who we can’t help but stare for a bit. They not only go by us on the streets or sit beside us in a coffee shop, but they are also on television, in movies or other medias. It’s almost impossible not to look!

Men are usually guiltier when it comes to that. I believe they stare more first because they’re braver, then because most are less zealous towards their partners, and also more instinctive. The women I know, and with whom I usually hang out, are almost all married, dating, or in some kind of a stable relationship. Of course women look at the handsome guys around them. The difference is that we’re more discrete, we worry about not offending our partners by admiring someone who’s not them.

Boys, don’t be mad at me. I know there are men who hold their breaths and count to ten so they won’t turn their heads around the moment when a hot lady walks by them if their wife/girlfriend is present. On the other hand, some are so indiscreet we feel bad for their partners. I’m not saying only men do that, because I know there are many women out there who are incautions too, when it comes to that.

My husband and I talk unconcernedly about other people’s beauties, including our friends and acquaintances. The same happens with famous people from the movies. We talk about who’s pretty, why they’re pretty, whose body is the hottest – and there’s no jealousy, since it’s a subject like any other. It’s different when we’re in public, though.

I remember once when I caught him staring at a female jogger, a few years back. We talked about it, and since then I have never caught him ‘in the act’ again. I confess I felt bad about it, we feel unvalued, our self-esteem is suddenly low.

Please note that I’m not saying people who do that are pervs or mean. There’s no harm in appreciating what’s beautiful, after all. All I’m saying is: please be discreet, especially if you have your partner beside you. Avoid unnecessary discussions, avoid hurting someone you love because of that. Just put yourself in the other person’s shoe, and ask how would you feel if it were the contrary.