And when it is about us?
Yesterday, talking to some acquaintances of mine, I was wondering why writing about this subject. But it was stronger than me and I decided to share it with you, male public and (I hope) politicized. A friend was telling me that she broke up with her husband and the funniest thing we thought was funny was that her mother said "you're leaving a fairy tale prince behind!". We chatted for a while, many stories, and three women over 30 arrived at a conclusion: men are no princes when their pockets are at stake!
And each one has reported on her own circumstances, her marital problems, we speak badly about our husbands, and we all have the same complaints: when men feel cornered, when a breakup or a fight takes place, money is at the heart of the disagreement. We often find it a "privilege" of us to have someone who demands we say where spend every single buck, or who dares to say in our faces how much we cost a month. Even though we have made a commitment to take care of our children, our house, and even our blessed husband, we receive the bill at the end of the relationship.
It's so much love, so much fervor that everything becomes a fight! The most bizarre cases are those in which the couple lives very well, and has a comfortable life. The husband goes to work, the wife takes care of the children and the house (after all the house is not automatic, neither the food nor the organization) and if she gets lucky, she still has a little time to earn a living in a modest job, because It is the time she has left. Then the marriage begins to crumble, the separation happens and this woman is helpless, has no place to live, does not have enough income, the children are in need, the father says he cannot afford alimony. Then he finds a girlfriend, makes incredible trips (which he never did with his wife), raises another family, and that first family becomes a hurdle.
Most puzzling of all is that while he was out working, having time for all his(sometimes cheating on his wife), earning a living, these people made their lives happen. Think about it: If you had to take care of the children, the house, etc., how would you spend all day there?
I want to warn you my dear reader, that this evil lasts forever, these children will not forget what you have caused in their lives. I find it laudable that men who assume they no longer want a relationship and split up but still love their children and make them comfortable inside their homes, not lying to judges and lawyers in judicial hearings, who have no money to afford alimony, but promptly return to their lives as single, going to bars, switching cars and taking their girlfriends to New York.
I'm glad we're not in this boat, you and me! I am married and I confess that this fear we all have. But it's good to be positive and think that nothing will happen. And if it happen, God's will be done, or what we have planned!
And each one has reported on her own circumstances, her marital problems, we speak badly about our husbands, and we all have the same complaints: when men feel cornered, when a breakup or a fight takes place, money is at the heart of the disagreement. We often find it a "privilege" of us to have someone who demands we say where spend every single buck, or who dares to say in our faces how much we cost a month. Even though we have made a commitment to take care of our children, our house, and even our blessed husband, we receive the bill at the end of the relationship.
It's so much love, so much fervor that everything becomes a fight! The most bizarre cases are those in which the couple lives very well, and has a comfortable life. The husband goes to work, the wife takes care of the children and the house (after all the house is not automatic, neither the food nor the organization) and if she gets lucky, she still has a little time to earn a living in a modest job, because It is the time she has left. Then the marriage begins to crumble, the separation happens and this woman is helpless, has no place to live, does not have enough income, the children are in need, the father says he cannot afford alimony. Then he finds a girlfriend, makes incredible trips (which he never did with his wife), raises another family, and that first family becomes a hurdle.
Most puzzling of all is that while he was out working, having time for all his(sometimes cheating on his wife), earning a living, these people made their lives happen. Think about it: If you had to take care of the children, the house, etc., how would you spend all day there?
I want to warn you my dear reader, that this evil lasts forever, these children will not forget what you have caused in their lives. I find it laudable that men who assume they no longer want a relationship and split up but still love their children and make them comfortable inside their homes, not lying to judges and lawyers in judicial hearings, who have no money to afford alimony, but promptly return to their lives as single, going to bars, switching cars and taking their girlfriends to New York.
I'm glad we're not in this boat, you and me! I am married and I confess that this fear we all have. But it's good to be positive and think that nothing will happen. And if it happen, God's will be done, or what we have planned!
Author : Mariana Goulart
Posted in: 12/09/2019
Last modified: 12/08/2019
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