Canceling in offline life
The expression can be new. But the attitude of "canceling" someone does not. If we stop to think about the real meaning of the expression that has been so intense on the networks in recent months, we will connect with so many things, including some attitudes that our parents had with us at some point in our lives! And that we have in our lives outside of online.
To cancel a person means to exclude from your “socializing”, from your networks, someone who, in your opinion (and perhaps in the opinion of thousands of others) has done something wrong. It is as if it were a way of punishing someone, wanting to bring out that person's mistakes, so that they can learn something from their wrong attitudes.
It's the good old punishment! That punishment we received when we were children, after doing something wrong, according to our parents, educators, family members. We listened to that long sermon, we were left somewhere alone, to reflect on our attitudes. If you think about it, how many times did you deserve to be grounded? Often, isn't it? Experts in child behavior today say that such punishments are useless, besides generating a grudge, it also generates more desire to do something out of the "correct". There you were canceled by parents or educators, in the corner of thinking to change your attitudes.
Did your mother never cancel that little friend who was playing horrors for fear that you would follow the same path, even though she knew the mess was together? We all went through this, we had friendships that were necessarily interrupted by the behavior so that we would not follow the same example. This is one of the most obvious cancellations of offline life!
And that “ice” that we usually give in the relationship on purpose? When the other person steps on the ball and we want to give a warning, punishing him in the relationship. We do not answer calls, do not send or respond to messages, do not accept visits and even return gifts. And we are often the ones canceled. We pay for what we did wrong in the relationship, we learned (or not) with the cancellation and so on.
When it is at the wedding, it gets more complicated: someone sleeps on the sofa or in their children's bed, one gets up from the table when the other sits down, and so humanity walks. Canceling! Wherever you go, expressions get new names, but attitudes are almost always the same. What changes is the format. And if we think of cancellation as a form of protest, it has the same purpose as punishment, which focuses on understanding an action and its consequences. But if the punishment is currently so criticized, why is the cancellation real?
To cancel a person means to exclude from your “socializing”, from your networks, someone who, in your opinion (and perhaps in the opinion of thousands of others) has done something wrong. It is as if it were a way of punishing someone, wanting to bring out that person's mistakes, so that they can learn something from their wrong attitudes.
It's the good old punishment! That punishment we received when we were children, after doing something wrong, according to our parents, educators, family members. We listened to that long sermon, we were left somewhere alone, to reflect on our attitudes. If you think about it, how many times did you deserve to be grounded? Often, isn't it? Experts in child behavior today say that such punishments are useless, besides generating a grudge, it also generates more desire to do something out of the "correct". There you were canceled by parents or educators, in the corner of thinking to change your attitudes.
Did your mother never cancel that little friend who was playing horrors for fear that you would follow the same path, even though she knew the mess was together? We all went through this, we had friendships that were necessarily interrupted by the behavior so that we would not follow the same example. This is one of the most obvious cancellations of offline life!
And that “ice” that we usually give in the relationship on purpose? When the other person steps on the ball and we want to give a warning, punishing him in the relationship. We do not answer calls, do not send or respond to messages, do not accept visits and even return gifts. And we are often the ones canceled. We pay for what we did wrong in the relationship, we learned (or not) with the cancellation and so on.
When it is at the wedding, it gets more complicated: someone sleeps on the sofa or in their children's bed, one gets up from the table when the other sits down, and so humanity walks. Canceling! Wherever you go, expressions get new names, but attitudes are almost always the same. What changes is the format. And if we think of cancellation as a form of protest, it has the same purpose as punishment, which focuses on understanding an action and its consequences. But if the punishment is currently so criticized, why is the cancellation real?
Author : Mariana Goulart
Posted in: 03/08/2021
Last modified: 03/07/2021
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