Celebrate or market a date?
Anniversaries can be more commercial than anything! Sometimes you are not even in the mood for celebration and you feel obliged to celebrate something because around you there is a real bombardment of information about the date. A good example is Valentine's Day. It is already beginning that in the month of February (in which the date is celebrated in other countries) here in Brazil there is a flurry of posts from couples celebrating a date, which we will agree, is not even ours. But everything is fine! If it's to celebrate something good, it's worth it!
“Married” couples celebrate as if they were lovers. Dinners, flowers, gifts. A surge of love to envy any single who is lost through social media feeds. You feeling tired and saving your money for some specific goals, and the commerce driving you crazy with alluring promotions and products. This is an arduous task, huh?
Even worse is when one wants to celebrate the date and the other is not in the mood. One wants to gift, the other does. One wants that super dinner, the other wants to save! One wants sex to set the date, the other wants to sleep to work the next day. There are still those constraints as a gift: you get a gift and are left in a tight spot with nothing to literally give back.
There's still that show of posting gifts from others in the feeds. Moment you think more about display than a gift. What's the point of showing, for example, that you won a gem on social media, in addition to ostentation? Yesterday, passing in front of a traditional jewelry store in my city, I saw a famous emerald ring in my memory, as a friend showed it a lot on her Instagram, when she got it from her husband, who she called Prince Charming. Today they are separated, because she discovered that he cheated on her when she traveled to work and left her son in his care. Can you understand?
It's like a honeymoon, where the bride and groom should go to have their first wedding night, but since it's good to test drive beforehand to see if that "fit" will work, the honeymoon is for enjoying the trip. There are couples who enjoy the wedding party so much that they are barely able to consummate the wedding! Honeymoon should be done at the beginning of the relationship, when everything is heated up and the longer together, the better! After a few years of dating, the couple really wants to enjoy the trip and the hotel.
Everything that can save a commemorative date is inside a good conversation. Align expectations. Speak the truth, but of course, without being rude or hurtful. If you have an affectionate partner who sews to create romantic expectations, you will have to choose between sincerity or celebration. Sometimes it doesn't even hurt to incorporate the romantic guy for a few hours to please your sweetheart. But if you're going to set up an "Instagrammable" circus, it's better to escape this robbery. Unless, of course, you're in too! Business is a partnership!
“Married” couples celebrate as if they were lovers. Dinners, flowers, gifts. A surge of love to envy any single who is lost through social media feeds. You feeling tired and saving your money for some specific goals, and the commerce driving you crazy with alluring promotions and products. This is an arduous task, huh?
Even worse is when one wants to celebrate the date and the other is not in the mood. One wants to gift, the other does. One wants that super dinner, the other wants to save! One wants sex to set the date, the other wants to sleep to work the next day. There are still those constraints as a gift: you get a gift and are left in a tight spot with nothing to literally give back.
There's still that show of posting gifts from others in the feeds. Moment you think more about display than a gift. What's the point of showing, for example, that you won a gem on social media, in addition to ostentation? Yesterday, passing in front of a traditional jewelry store in my city, I saw a famous emerald ring in my memory, as a friend showed it a lot on her Instagram, when she got it from her husband, who she called Prince Charming. Today they are separated, because she discovered that he cheated on her when she traveled to work and left her son in his care. Can you understand?
It's like a honeymoon, where the bride and groom should go to have their first wedding night, but since it's good to test drive beforehand to see if that "fit" will work, the honeymoon is for enjoying the trip. There are couples who enjoy the wedding party so much that they are barely able to consummate the wedding! Honeymoon should be done at the beginning of the relationship, when everything is heated up and the longer together, the better! After a few years of dating, the couple really wants to enjoy the trip and the hotel.
Everything that can save a commemorative date is inside a good conversation. Align expectations. Speak the truth, but of course, without being rude or hurtful. If you have an affectionate partner who sews to create romantic expectations, you will have to choose between sincerity or celebration. Sometimes it doesn't even hurt to incorporate the romantic guy for a few hours to please your sweetheart. But if you're going to set up an "Instagrammable" circus, it's better to escape this robbery. Unless, of course, you're in too! Business is a partnership!
Author : Mariana Goulart
Posted in: 06/13/2022
Last modified: 06/12/2022
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