Boy thing, girl thing!
These are hard times for the traditional ones, aren't they? Girl things are still separate from boy things. Girls still enjoy a day of beauty in a salon, taking care of their hair, doing massage, makeup. Just like there's that barbecue with lots of beer to watch the football game and talk about a lot of nonsense, for the boys. Trying to unify something that is still cultural is going to take some time.
When we women are teenagers, we already start to be ashamed of some things. The breasts begin to grow, the butt to appear. Right now, most of us want to disappear, we don't want to be noticed. The acceptance phase disputes space with the arrival of hormones, and little by little we accept ourselves. Some turn into women much faster, blossom faster. Men are already more confident in this period, they want to grow, gain body hair, create muscles.
And when the baby is born automatically, who takes care of it? Who stops working, who loses most nights of sleep? Who leaves their job to dedicate themselves to their children and home? Now they have started to approve paternity leave, so that men can be a part of this moment (and help in this process). And I've heard a lot of people out there saying that it's absurd, because the man is the main provider of the house, he can't be in this situation. In this case, he is the provider because he has more time and opportunities, in fact. But clearly, the girls' things and the boys' things.
Here at my house, everyone washes the dishes. My husband goes to the market to shop, and sometimes I don't want to go, I watch TV on the couch. Changing roles and nobody complains. At my parents' and in-laws' house, after lunch, the women go to the kitchen to tidy up and the men stay on the couch talking and drinking coffee. As of old! Most learn this way, pass it on like this too.
But why talk about it in this column? To normalize that some people learned this way, they are not 100% guilty of still separating what belongs to the girl and what belongs to the boy. Why do you still have a baby shower using themed colors for the sexes of the babies? Why when we go shopping for clothes do we go to the sections of our genre to choose pieces that we like? Because it is cultural, it has been passed through our family members, we are taking it forward to our community.
There are people who think wrong, who have not generalized everything, without paying attention to their attitudes of hate and lack of empathy. When we talk about our parents and family, we accept that they are still shaping (or not) at this moment. We ran our hands over their heads, sorry. But to criticize and point out a person on the other side of the country is already much easier, in addition to being very fast. We want to empathize with ourselves, but we don't want to empathize with others! There are people with no patience in a hurry to solve this. And solve it anyway, unfortunately...
When we women are teenagers, we already start to be ashamed of some things. The breasts begin to grow, the butt to appear. Right now, most of us want to disappear, we don't want to be noticed. The acceptance phase disputes space with the arrival of hormones, and little by little we accept ourselves. Some turn into women much faster, blossom faster. Men are already more confident in this period, they want to grow, gain body hair, create muscles.
And when the baby is born automatically, who takes care of it? Who stops working, who loses most nights of sleep? Who leaves their job to dedicate themselves to their children and home? Now they have started to approve paternity leave, so that men can be a part of this moment (and help in this process). And I've heard a lot of people out there saying that it's absurd, because the man is the main provider of the house, he can't be in this situation. In this case, he is the provider because he has more time and opportunities, in fact. But clearly, the girls' things and the boys' things.
Here at my house, everyone washes the dishes. My husband goes to the market to shop, and sometimes I don't want to go, I watch TV on the couch. Changing roles and nobody complains. At my parents' and in-laws' house, after lunch, the women go to the kitchen to tidy up and the men stay on the couch talking and drinking coffee. As of old! Most learn this way, pass it on like this too.
But why talk about it in this column? To normalize that some people learned this way, they are not 100% guilty of still separating what belongs to the girl and what belongs to the boy. Why do you still have a baby shower using themed colors for the sexes of the babies? Why when we go shopping for clothes do we go to the sections of our genre to choose pieces that we like? Because it is cultural, it has been passed through our family members, we are taking it forward to our community.
There are people who think wrong, who have not generalized everything, without paying attention to their attitudes of hate and lack of empathy. When we talk about our parents and family, we accept that they are still shaping (or not) at this moment. We ran our hands over their heads, sorry. But to criticize and point out a person on the other side of the country is already much easier, in addition to being very fast. We want to empathize with ourselves, but we don't want to empathize with others! There are people with no patience in a hurry to solve this. And solve it anyway, unfortunately...
Author : Mariana Goulart
Posted in: 07/11/2022
Last modified: 07/11/2022
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