The age of mirroring
Rapport technique has never been so common, and important for people. Mirroring, which consists of a technique in which you choose someone, a person you admire or want to communicate with and then copy their gestures, movements and other characteristics. The goal is to create a connection, an empathy during communication. This approach is often used in journalism, for interviews with an emotional nature, to get closer to the interviewee. But now that you're reading about it, can you identify some people who practice mirroring in their everyday lives?
Even though the coaching boom has passed, we still have a long way to go when it comes to seeking mentors to inspire us and direct our lives. In the past decade (between 2010 and 2020) coaches were taking over the world, moving people who were tired of their mediocre and emotionless jobs off the couch and out of outdated offices. It was very good, as incredible professionals who had previously been dormant or forgotten in other areas appeared on the market. Many women also had their cries for freedom, gaining empowerment and financial independence.
But let's agree that everything has a limit, right? We are in a moment where coaches and supposed mentors motivate us to do things that we should normally be doing. I see some of these internet wizards in sponsored advertisements saying that men should start their day by making their bed, making their coffee, going to work with enthusiasm and determination. Such a male empowerment. Does anyone then pay to hear a 'mentor' tell you to make your breakfast? I'm even curious to know who would be responsible for this, but I don't even need to ask. Here's the reflection: if you don't do it, who will?
The so-called Nutella generation is gaining absurd proportions! Paying to listen to advice that your mother should or even gave you, crosses the line my friend! Do a retrospective in your head: when you were at school and were bullied, how did you react? You would get upset (of course!), cry with anger (of course!) and go out to solve it. If you got home telling your parents, you could have two options: get spanked or embarrass yourself with mom or dad going after the friend who offended you (that part was horrible, let's face it!).
And now when you fight with your girlfriend or wife, what do you do? Pack a backpack and go to your mother's house so she can pat your head and tell you you don't deserve this? Or face the problem and solve it? So, do you need a coach/mentor to tell you that you have to have the guts to face daily challenges and say no to your boss who wants to send you on a trip to the other side of the world close to your 40th birthday? Not to paraphrase my grandfather, but he looks like a boy!
In fact, it's much more about posture for any occasion. I'm just making it clear that it's kind of absurd to hire a coach to teach you how to make coffee (and think you're better than other people for that), tell you to face the pain of a separation with dignity, refuse a job you can't stand to go after something bigger that you love to do. We already heard this advice from grandparents, from our parents. In a different way, of course. Today with a new outfit, but with the same essence!
My conclusion is that people are so accommodated and thinking that they have the power to influence and complain that two communities were generated: those who weakened and surrendered and those who stayed with the simple idea of healing those who weakened. And those who have an attitude are the ones who come out ahead!
Recently, I heard a phrase from one of the great mentors of the new crowd on a social network, who quoted an oriental proverb that is perfect for this moment: “Strong men create easy times and easy times create weak men, but weak men create difficult times and difficult times make strong men.” Isn't that about it?
Even though the coaching boom has passed, we still have a long way to go when it comes to seeking mentors to inspire us and direct our lives. In the past decade (between 2010 and 2020) coaches were taking over the world, moving people who were tired of their mediocre and emotionless jobs off the couch and out of outdated offices. It was very good, as incredible professionals who had previously been dormant or forgotten in other areas appeared on the market. Many women also had their cries for freedom, gaining empowerment and financial independence.
But let's agree that everything has a limit, right? We are in a moment where coaches and supposed mentors motivate us to do things that we should normally be doing. I see some of these internet wizards in sponsored advertisements saying that men should start their day by making their bed, making their coffee, going to work with enthusiasm and determination. Such a male empowerment. Does anyone then pay to hear a 'mentor' tell you to make your breakfast? I'm even curious to know who would be responsible for this, but I don't even need to ask. Here's the reflection: if you don't do it, who will?
The so-called Nutella generation is gaining absurd proportions! Paying to listen to advice that your mother should or even gave you, crosses the line my friend! Do a retrospective in your head: when you were at school and were bullied, how did you react? You would get upset (of course!), cry with anger (of course!) and go out to solve it. If you got home telling your parents, you could have two options: get spanked or embarrass yourself with mom or dad going after the friend who offended you (that part was horrible, let's face it!).
And now when you fight with your girlfriend or wife, what do you do? Pack a backpack and go to your mother's house so she can pat your head and tell you you don't deserve this? Or face the problem and solve it? So, do you need a coach/mentor to tell you that you have to have the guts to face daily challenges and say no to your boss who wants to send you on a trip to the other side of the world close to your 40th birthday? Not to paraphrase my grandfather, but he looks like a boy!
In fact, it's much more about posture for any occasion. I'm just making it clear that it's kind of absurd to hire a coach to teach you how to make coffee (and think you're better than other people for that), tell you to face the pain of a separation with dignity, refuse a job you can't stand to go after something bigger that you love to do. We already heard this advice from grandparents, from our parents. In a different way, of course. Today with a new outfit, but with the same essence!
My conclusion is that people are so accommodated and thinking that they have the power to influence and complain that two communities were generated: those who weakened and surrendered and those who stayed with the simple idea of healing those who weakened. And those who have an attitude are the ones who come out ahead!
Recently, I heard a phrase from one of the great mentors of the new crowd on a social network, who quoted an oriental proverb that is perfect for this moment: “Strong men create easy times and easy times create weak men, but weak men create difficult times and difficult times make strong men.” Isn't that about it?
Author : Mariana Goulart
Posted in: 02/20/2023
Last modified: 02/19/2023
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