Limits, media and current affairs
Gradually we are adapting to the current moment when the issue is the limit. But what kind of limit? The one we need to establish in relationships between men and women.
An increasingly present and necessary subject to be discussed today, the limit has gone from being something utopian, that only lip service. In a world watched over by cameras, smartphones and social media, nothing goes unnoticed. And when the subject is a limit, it is no longer customary to "sugar coat it" to anyone!
We constantly read around the expression "it's not". That is, when someone says no, very loud or even a simple denial, it's no and that's it. Some people believe that a more shy no would be embarrassing just to say yes. And most of the time this is not true! And that goes for men and women! Harassment is also practiced by women, albeit minimally.
Corporate relationships between men and women can end up in conflict because of harassment. The position of power, of the man or woman, negatively influences the abusive relationship. People subject themselves to absurdities to keep their positions and jobs, putting up with abuse in all forms: sexual, prejudiced, moral harassment, virtual harassment, bullying, and many others. Due to the company's atmosphere, the preservation of salary and position, the well-being of colleagues, people end up overlooking some types of harassment and abuse. Others are so blatant that they are quickly denounced.
Before, reporting abuse and harassment was like watching a movie, with hidden microphones, people in plain clothes, a real military operation. Now even the smartwatch can record a conversation, the cell phone records images. And if you fall into the nets, you can know that the bug will catch! A silly joke can be interpreted as harassment. An attempted kiss can lead to many arrests and consequences!
And the party is still going strong with the group trying everything they can to kiss someone. Drink parties, beer festivals and open bars become chaotic grounds for abuse cases. Remember there, how many times have we seen or even tried to kiss someone at a party that we didn't want to and that was it. Maybe even the use of force, a tight hug, that thing of holding the girl's chin the strength to place a big kiss on her mouth. It's so common that we don't even pay attention.
We will reach the time when going out to places where men and women want to flirt will be tense, as everyone will be afraid of other people's attitudes and afraid to act and cross the line. Let's go back to ancient times when dating was only on dates and at most taking the other's hand? And after the green light opens, does it happen? Or are we going to enter an organized system where only the woman will give the initial yes for something to happen between two people?
This flood of reports of abuse and harassment will certainly bring about new attitudes and behavior labels. So that people can stay safe even in crowded environments. Before touching someone, we need to know if this touch is welcome. In fact, this has always been necessary, but almost never respected.
And arriving at this delicate moment, where men and some women are losing positions, tests, resources, positions, jobs, realities, for abuse without questioning the will of the other, things will need to adjust. So that socializing is pleasant, so that people learn to respect the body and will of others. Just as today it is strange for us to throw a can of soda out of a car window, there will come a time when an abusive touch will be just as shocking. We are moving in this direction!
Author : Mariana Goulart
Posted in: 03/20/2023
Last modified: 03/21/2023
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José Claudinei de Camargo wrote on 03/30/2023 Answer