When money drives a relationship

In those lists out there about the biggest problems in a relationship, the financial issue should be in first place (or second after cheating). And don't think it's just due to a lack of money, because excess can also be a problem in some aspects. And I'm sure that while you're reading this, you've already thought about several couples who have had this problem (or even you!).

With the excess of access and also the work that is often based on social networks, comparing yourself to others is very common. More than entertainment, the social network has become people's resumes, where they boast powerful routines that are the result of winning journeys. There’s even a term for this: dictatorship of success. After all, those who don't follow this golden path of mentors and “winners” end up moving around in circles and conversations.

When in a relationship the financial situation of both parties is favorable, the relationship can be wonderful. Travel, achievements, updated beauty standards. Everything gets easier. Maybe there are normal mishaps between the couple, but they work out like life. If you both met in this current state of financial abundance, even if the relationship ends, the financial factor may not be even close to the reason.

But when the situation changes, where only one is on the rise, or declining financial situation, being the other's support would be appropriate. Some couples manage, with a lot of partnership, to take control of the situation and resolve it together. There are cases where the one who starts to earn more becomes dazzled and becomes ostentatious, wasteful and leaves the other behind to live their new world, forgetting what they went through together in times of difficulty.

Those who lose equally come together and join hands to find a solution. Perhaps a moment of scarcity is so difficult that it cannot be overcome and the couple breaks up, each one looking for their own solution. Sometimes there is shame in the process of losing everything if you don't face others head on. Coexistence becomes bitter, words acidic and it is very difficult to return to the style and standard of life once enjoyed.

The new couples then come together by affinity, in a new moment, a new posture, a new social cycle. Strong is the one who can handle the crisis or the good times hand in hand. The temptation of a new moment, surrounded by beautiful, charming and well-experienced people has a huge appeal (and a magnet) in people's lives, especially those who experience all this for the first time and end up not being mature during this moment, to identify that such a situation is almost a test. Up front, when you take stock, you are sure that deep down, people do not change their essence. They transform according to the environment and the situation...