Emotional and social polarization
We have access to a lot of content, to many lifestyles. We can adapt to be new personas whenever we want. It would seem good, if it weren't harmful and exhausting, tiring and depreciative. Spending all your time comparing yourself and adapting to what seems best (and may seem easy too) is the new normal!
We've never had so many people without personality in the world. And this has nothing to do with the emotional way you react to everything, but rather with the fact that people change their lifestyle, profession, romantic relationships and friendships all the time. And no, this is not a criticism of people's evolution, who after a while understand that a profession is not working out, that they need to change a toxic relationship or seek new opportunities.
What I'm talking about here is not having focus, not having the will to insist on something, to fix something! It's looking at a lifestyle and thinking it's better than yours and simply abandoning everything to change, transforming yourself into someone almost unrecognizable! I'm sure you know people like this, that you don't even recognize them as you used to. Or could that person be you, right?
People who maintain their good nature end up being the ones who are out of the ordinary, where they are rare and appreciated simply for being what everyone should be, but are not and are becoming fewer and fewer. The new normal scares us, but it makes it clear to us that being inconsequential, inconsistent, incorrect, unproductive, unhappy, unfaithful, etc., is not a character flaw, but a question of opportunities, of a lack of something in life that led them to practice bad behavior.
An example: the unfaithful man used to apologize for having a great sexual appetite and his wife not always being available. Today, the unfaithful man seeks someone who is more available for everything than “just” sex. The unproductive person, who is discouraged in his work environment and does not even fulfill his tasks and goals, presents a certificate that will prove to his leaders that he has social problems, that he is lacking motivation for various reasons that are not even related to the company. Instead of getting motivated and seeking other paths, they become bitter people in the work team where everyone needs to respect their condition, instead of looking for a new job and being happy somewhere else.
We are normalizing accepting what has always been considered outside the norm. This fast-paced life, the comparisons made on social media, lead us to severe inconstancy, to permanent discouragement, which ends up making it normal to live with depressed and unmotivated people. And when someone is happy, focused and full of determination, that person becomes the exception, even though that is what we should accept as normal and healthy. This is not a speech against psychological and emotional problems, quite the opposite, it is a question of thinking that the normal thing is to be happy, confident, dedicated, and those who cannot achieve a minimum level of happiness need to review, treat, rest to heal.
The greatest proof of this is the number of coaches and people who want to teach us how to be more productive, focused, happy and healthy. A flood of know-it-alls who want to help us be normal. However, if we have so many professionals available in these areas, it is because the demand is certainly absurd! Two decades ago, people who did not fit in were usually suffering from some emotional or psychological illness. They had to hide their symptoms in order to be accepted. Today, the new normal is not fitting in, not staying in the same place or doing the same activity for too long. Changing one thing for another all the time, being different people, or carrying a heavy burden of sadness for not being able to change and move on. What used to be the middle ground is now a rarity. As usual, we live in an emotional and social polarization...
We've never had so many people without personality in the world. And this has nothing to do with the emotional way you react to everything, but rather with the fact that people change their lifestyle, profession, romantic relationships and friendships all the time. And no, this is not a criticism of people's evolution, who after a while understand that a profession is not working out, that they need to change a toxic relationship or seek new opportunities.
What I'm talking about here is not having focus, not having the will to insist on something, to fix something! It's looking at a lifestyle and thinking it's better than yours and simply abandoning everything to change, transforming yourself into someone almost unrecognizable! I'm sure you know people like this, that you don't even recognize them as you used to. Or could that person be you, right?
People who maintain their good nature end up being the ones who are out of the ordinary, where they are rare and appreciated simply for being what everyone should be, but are not and are becoming fewer and fewer. The new normal scares us, but it makes it clear to us that being inconsequential, inconsistent, incorrect, unproductive, unhappy, unfaithful, etc., is not a character flaw, but a question of opportunities, of a lack of something in life that led them to practice bad behavior.
An example: the unfaithful man used to apologize for having a great sexual appetite and his wife not always being available. Today, the unfaithful man seeks someone who is more available for everything than “just” sex. The unproductive person, who is discouraged in his work environment and does not even fulfill his tasks and goals, presents a certificate that will prove to his leaders that he has social problems, that he is lacking motivation for various reasons that are not even related to the company. Instead of getting motivated and seeking other paths, they become bitter people in the work team where everyone needs to respect their condition, instead of looking for a new job and being happy somewhere else.
We are normalizing accepting what has always been considered outside the norm. This fast-paced life, the comparisons made on social media, lead us to severe inconstancy, to permanent discouragement, which ends up making it normal to live with depressed and unmotivated people. And when someone is happy, focused and full of determination, that person becomes the exception, even though that is what we should accept as normal and healthy. This is not a speech against psychological and emotional problems, quite the opposite, it is a question of thinking that the normal thing is to be happy, confident, dedicated, and those who cannot achieve a minimum level of happiness need to review, treat, rest to heal.
The greatest proof of this is the number of coaches and people who want to teach us how to be more productive, focused, happy and healthy. A flood of know-it-alls who want to help us be normal. However, if we have so many professionals available in these areas, it is because the demand is certainly absurd! Two decades ago, people who did not fit in were usually suffering from some emotional or psychological illness. They had to hide their symptoms in order to be accepted. Today, the new normal is not fitting in, not staying in the same place or doing the same activity for too long. Changing one thing for another all the time, being different people, or carrying a heavy burden of sadness for not being able to change and move on. What used to be the middle ground is now a rarity. As usual, we live in an emotional and social polarization...
Author : Mariana Goulart
Posted in: 10/14/2024
Last modified: 10/14/2024
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